For starters, The Wedding Stationery Suite is compiled of several pieces.
The Wedding Invitation is the centerpiece of the wedding stationery suite. It includes all of the important information about your wedding including the location, date, and time. Your invitation also sets the tone for your wedding and lets your guests know if your wedding style is casual or formal so they can dress accordingly.
A Reception Card: The reception card is used when the wedding ceremony is held in one place, such as a house of worship, and the reception party will be held in a different location.
The Wedding Envelopes: The envelope that your wedding invitation ensemble is sent in. It includes a return address and postage.
The Response card: The response card or reply card is included with your invitation and is the way for your guests to let you know if they will or will not be able to attend your wedding. A pre-stamped and pre-addressed envelope is included with the rsvp in order to make it easy for your guests to respond. once you get your responses back in the mail, you will be able to give your caterer and venue a head count of expected attendees. Rsvp cards should include the following:
respond by date – the rsvp deadline
accept and decline checkboxes
a place for your guests to fill in the names of the people attending
entrée options for guests to select their meal choice (only include if you are offering different entrees for a sit-down dinner)
The Response Card Envelope: Includes return address and postage and is sent with the reply card so that your guests can easily return their rsvp.
The Enclosure Card: An enclosure card includes directions to your wedding venue or other important information for your guests that are not included on the invite such as hotel accommodations.
How to get started:
Our design studio is based in Sherborn, Massachusetts. Every invitation begins with an initial complimentary hour-long consultation. Initial consultations may be done via email or phone, however the most helpful ones are in person. During this consultation we want to hear about you, your event, your ideas and what inspires you to help us pull together a selection of invitations. The invitation sets the initial tone for an event and gives your guests a feel for the attire, the theme, and says something about who you are: sweet, modern, classic, fun, elegant, casual, edgy, traditional etc. Call 617.921.4236 or email [email protected] to schedule your personal consultation.
Following our initial consultation a project estimate will be emailed to you with a general description of the proposed project. If you choose to continue work with White on White, a signed invitation contract, invitation wording, and 50% deposit is required. Basic wording query is included, however the more details we have, the more efficient the process will be.
The sooner the better! Wedding Invitation Suites should be ordered no less than six to eight months ahead. These invitations can take as long as two months to produce. That being said – White on White is also able to turn around some party invitations in as little as two weeks. It all depends on the event and degree of detail, materials being used, printing method, and amount of customization.
Once the ball is rolling, the fun begins! Upon receipt of your deposit and wording, the creative design process starts.
- Ready-to-Order: If you select an invitation from a Ready-to-Order album via email you will receive 1 rough mock-up with wording via email. The rough mock will have approximate typestyles, but may not be exact matches to those in the album. Within a week of receiving your feedback you will be emailed 1 complimentary proof from the company (Arzberger, Carlson Craft, Pioneer, Checkerboard etc.). There will be a $25 charge for each additional proof. If the invitation looks good to you a proof approval form must be signed and returned with final payment in order to proceed to print production.
- Custom Design: While every invitation is unique, the custom design process is truly tailored to you and your event. Following consultation to narrow down style and design preferences and receipt of deposit, an initial proof is emailed to you. Within a week of your communication of choice and additional feedback a complete proof (including elements such as, reply card, reception cards etc.) will be emailed to you. At this point you are asked to submit any final design or wording changes to create your final proof. You are responsible for reviewing the final proof for any typos or errors and asked to sign off on each page with approval for printing. There will be a $50 charge for each proof thereafter so please proofread with care. Once you are ready to approve, fax the signed-off proof and proof approval form back to 888.605.9294 and submit the final payment.
Delivery – Orders are generally delivered 3 to 4 weeks from when final payment is received and print production is approved. Invitations may be picked up from White on White or drop shipped directly to your home or alternate address. Customer will be responsible for all outside printer shipping charges and sales tax.
Proof read, proof read, proof read! If for any reason you choose to reprint your order (such as proof reading error or miscalculated guest list/quantity ordered), you are responsible for 100% of the reprinting and labor costs. It is significantly less expensive to order an additional 25 invitations at the outset, additions after production are considered a new order. Should you choose to cancel your order before printing begins, White on White reserves the right to retain 50% of the deposit.
Growing up, my mother was big on teaching rules of etiquette not to be stuffy, but to minimize awkward moments. Etiquette is a great equalizer, if everyone knows the process, we enjoy the moment and each other’s company for the good and interesting things each person brings to the conversation, not their faux pas.
Despite being a stickler for etiquette some rules do change as the origins of the rule are lost over time. An example is the use of “rsvp” which time has established as a word unto itself and to follow the traditional rule on “rsvp” language would appear wrong and odd to most people these days. For the entertainment value of odd trivia the originated etiquette says properly only the “R” in “R.s.v.p.” is capitalized since this is an abbreviation for a French sentence, “Répondez s’il vous plaît.” Likewise, since the sentence means “Respond please”, never say “Please R.s.v.p.” since that would be redundant.
Here are some good basics to consider when wording invitations.
Punctuation is not used at the ends of lines (commas, periods, colons, etc.); however, commas are used within lines to separate the day from the date, the city from the state and a man’s surname from “Jr./junior/II/III”, etc.
No abbreviations are used. Either spell out a name or leave it out: “Mark Claude Manet” not “Mark C. Manet.” Also, “Road”, “Street”, “Avenue”, “Reverend”, “Doctor”, and all military titles should be spelled out. Exceptions are: “Mr.” and “Mrs.” Many etiquette specialists prefer that “junior” be spelled out. When it is spelled out, the “j” is not capitalized.
If both Mr. and Mrs. Smith are doctors, they may be referred to as “The Doctors Smith.”
Days, dates, and times are always spelled out.
Only proper nouns are capitalized (names of people and places, cities, states, name of the day of the week, month name, etc.) Exceptions are the year line (“Two thousand”) or where the noun is the beginning of a new sentence or thought (“T” in “The favour of a reply is requested” or “Reception to follow”)
Be consistent with your usage of “honour/favour” or “honor/favor.” Traditionally the formal, British spelling with the “u” is preferred in proper wedding etiquette but whichever form you choose, use it in both words.
It is considered socially incorrect to write, “no children please” on the invitation or any part of the wedding ensemble. “Black tie” does not traditionally appear on the invitation. If the event takes place after six o’clock, your guests should assume that it is a formal event. If you are concerned, however, you may write “Black tie” as a right footnote on your reception card. Note: the “B” in “Black tie” is capitalized, but not the “t.”
It is considered extremely socially incorrect to make any mention of gifts on invitations on the theory that we should expect nothing from our friends except their presence, therefore never list where you are registered, the name of a charity for donations or your desire for money rather than presents. The only slight exception to this strict rule is for shower invitations where it is permitted to list the theme of the gifts (“Linens”, etc.) but never where one is registered or any mention whatsoever of money.
Traditional Wording, line by line: (Weddings) Begin with the full, formal name(s) and title(s) of the event sponsors. These are not necessarily the people who are paying for the wedding. While the bride’s parents traditionally sponsor a wedding, anyone can be a sponsor, including other relatives, the groom’s parents, or the couple themselves.
Following the name(s) is the phrase “request the honour of your presence” for a service held in a house of worship. The variation “request the pleasure of your company” is used for a wedding held in any other location.
The next line reads “at the marriage of their daughter” or whatever the relation is between the sponsor(s) and the bride. The bride’s full name follows but often excludes her surname. If her last name is different from the sponsor name or both sets of parents are doing the inviting, include it; otherwise, omit it. If you use optional personal or professional titles (Ms., Miss., Dr., etc.), then include her last name.
Generally “to” is used on the line separating the bride’s name from the groom’s. The exception would be the use of “and” when both parents are doing the inviting or for a Nuptial Mass.
The groom’s full name – first, middle and last-is next. If the bride uses a personal or professional title, so should the groom.
On the next line, spell out the day and date with the spelled-out number inverted before the name of the month and a comma separating the day from the date: “on Saturday, the first of May.” Using “on” before the name of the day is optional but if you do, do not capitalize the “o.”
Listing the year is optional. If you choose to do so, it appears on the line following the day/date line. Only the first letter of the first word of the line is capitalized: “The year two thousand” or “Two thousand and nine.”
On the line after the date comes the time. List this spelled out: “at six o’clock” with the word “at” preceding the time. You do not need to put “in the morning” or “in the evening” since it should be obvious but you may if you would like to and must if it is not obvious (for example, a sunrise wedding “at six o’clock” would be more likely to get people there on time if you said “at six o’clock in the morning”). In any case, never put “a.m.” or “p.m.” on a formal invitation. The name of the place goes on the next line: “Grace Cathedral”, “The Belser Arboretum” or simply the address if the wedding is in someone’s home.
Listing an address for the place is optional (unless the wedding is in someone’s home). If you do include it, place it on the line immediately below the name of the place. Generally the last line lists the city and state, separated by a comma: “East Greenwich, Rhode Island.” Note that you never put a zip code here.
If you are not using reception cards, you may include the information here as the last line of the invitation: “Reception immediately following”, “Reception to follow” or “and afterwards at the reception.” These sentences indicate that the reception is in the same place as the wedding. If it is not, reconsider ordering reception cards so that the important wording of your invitation will not be reduced in point size to accommodate the several extra lines of the reception information.
If you are not using response cards and envelopes, in the lower left hand corner include “The favour of a reply is requested”, or “R.s.v.p.”, and a response address; however, if you have a reception card, put the R.s.v.p. corner line there in order to leave the invitation uncluttered.